Recent Improvements in the basic WHH technique
Revision 1.1, Jan 5, 2000
This page on recent improvements to the basic Whole Hearted Healing™ technique is divided into three sections: Major Premises of the Whole Hearted Healing approach; Recent improvements from the Institute on the basic Whole Hearted Healing technique; and Letters from clients and practitioners improving on the basic Whole Hearted Healing technique.
Eventually we plan to update the self help guides, but in the interim this page provides a place to get recent updates. It also allows interested people a chance to see others who are working to make the methods even better for all of us. We support the practice of mutual encouragement and improvement that is characteristic of the ‘Energy’ psychology field in these amazing times of radical change in psychology. We would like to acknowledge this tone as set by technique developers Gary Craig, Larry Nims, Tapas Flemming, Jim Durlatcher, and many others, as well as the wonderful contributions made by practitioners and clients around the world.
Major Premises of the Whole-Hearted Healing approach:
Before we get to new material, I’d like to review some of the basic premises of the Whole Hearted Healing technique that are sometimes missed by practitioners of the technique. Improvements are at the end of this premises section.
1. If a client does not heal an issue with you, it is because you have either a similar problem, unconsciously do not want them to heal, or have not mastered an adequate level of technique. And it’s rarely due to technique.
This can be very hard to believe at times, when symptoms that you have and ones that they have can look so different, but often the core problem is similar. Or the client may unconsciously remind you of someone that you want to stay the way they are, or you may unconsciously not want to heal them for a variety of personal reasons.
Thus, it is NOT due to client resistance or so called secondary gain. At the deepest level everyone wants to be healed and whole.
Thus, people’s lack of healing is due to our lack of being healed. Although this sounds daunting, it’s really good news. Since we’re motivated to heal ourselves, if a client doesn’t heal, it shows us where we have problems!
2. Past trauma or the ego shell is at the root of all of a persons problems.
Even though techniques like EFT or TAT look like they are healing a person in the present, they are actually relieving problems that occurred in the past. Although the phenomenon of the ego shell is new to much of the field, therapies like TAT are specifically designed to deal with problems in it. In fact, trauma is at the root of this phenomena also, except it is from the past of your genetic lineage.
3. More to come... (12/7/99)
Recent Improvements from the Institute on the basic Whole Hearted Healing technique:
Here are a few improvements that current practitioners have not yet seen.
1. I’ve discovered this about past lives in the last three years. Past lives are not the core problem of an issue. Trauma in this lifetime that has a similar feeling to it is hidden by the past life recall. This trauma that we are avoiding causes the movement to a past life. For most people, there are probably as many past lives as grains of sand, but the only ones impacting the present have a similar feeling tone to the trauma in the present lifetime.
Dr. Stanislav Grof refers to karmic patterns in this regard (See The Cosmic Game), but I suspect this is a rare occurrence or another manifestation of the above hidden trauma. I have not seen it in any of my clients to date (although they typically recognize other people in their lives as being involved in past life trauma).
2. I started to come to the conclusion that a physical injury of some sort is ALWAYS at the core for every stack of traumas. And that the stack can have a number of physical injury traumas. This includes pain, poisoning, electric shock, and any other disturbance to the physical body. I haven’t proved this yet, but I think it’s a good rule of thumb to work from at this time. (Of course, any womb trauma ALWAYS has a physical injury to it - that hasn’t changed.)
Letters from clients and practitioners improving on the basic Whole Hearted Healing technique:
This is an exciting section for me, as I’m continually amazed how people can improve the process in ways I never thought of. I encourage anyone to contribute. (12/7/99)
Using massage at the diaphragm to end disassociation and allow the free flow of emotions during a session:
We worked together at the conference, the day that we left to return home.
As when working with you, a major problem for me in using any energy therapy technique is dissociating and getting stuck. (For me, getting stuck means that I can't resolve a particular emotion. It just stays there, causing me emotional discomfort. This also seems to result in energy blockages that cause physical symptoms like aches and pains in various parts of my body.)
Since beginning using the various energy psychology techniques, I realized that I had a major problem with getting stuck, but until I worked with you, I really had no idea just how very much I dissociate. And now that I realize what I'm doing, it's quite a struggle for me to not do so. All of the effort required to try and stay in my body leaves me feeling very tired and frustrated.
I've been talking with one of my acupuncture teachers about the things that I've learned about the energy psychology techniques for a couple of months now. David seems very interested in this, and has borrowed the Ultimate Therapist tapes that were made of a conference done in Oregon a couple of years ago.
Last night, I was telling him that there was one guy at the conference (Lee Cartwright) who talked about the importance of integrating all three dimensions. According to Lee, the use of the eyes, going from left to right, in EMDR only integrates the left/right dimension, and doesn't do anything for the top/bottom or front/back dimension.
I've been using Lee's idea of integrating all three dimensions in an effort to keep me from dissociating and from getting stuck, and while it does seem to help, I'm still dissociating and getting stuck in a big way.
I guess David saw the frustration in my eyes and took pity on me because he offered to show me a couple of techniques that he had developed when working on MCS (multiple chemical sensitivity) patients at the Environmental Health Center here in Dallas.
As I lay on a massage/acupuncture table, he had me bend my knees, with my feet lying flat on the table. He told me that focusing on the soles of my feet would keep me grounded and in my body. He also told me that it was important to keep my eyes open, as it was too easy to dissociate/leave my body with them closed.
Then he told me to focus on a problem that I was having trouble resolving, and when I did, he started pushing, in an inwards and slightly upwards fashion, on the area where the sternum ends. As long as he did that, I experienced a free flow of emotions. There was no getting stuck at all. (I must have thousands of tears in me. I had no idea that there was so much sadness and hurt!)
David said that the way we keep emotions from flowing is by blocking them at the solar plexus chakra by making the diaphragm rigid. Manually pushing on this area keeps the diaphragm from becoming rigid. (It also seems to force you to actually breathe too.
It didn't feel very good, but it was effective.
He showed me another technique for keeping the diaphragm from becoming rigid thereby, stopping the free flow of emotions and energy) that involved rounding your pelvis up off of the ground as high as you can comfortable go (this is with your knees bent, and your feet on the ground/bed) and then completely relaxing the pelvic, back, and abdominal muscles, letting the body 'whumpf' to the ground/bed.
If done correctly, there is quite an impact between the body and the surface it's laying on, so it should be done on a comfortable surface.
Thanks for working with me, Grant. I hope we meet again.
Name withheld by request
Using fingers on the forehead and breath to ease the healing:
Hi Grant, I've stumbled upon something else in the book "Conscious Breathing" by Gay Hendricks that is helping me even more, and I thought you might be interested in it. (I bought my copy of Conscious Breathing at a local Barnes and Noble, but Amazon.com, my favorite net bookstore, has it as well. The cost is around $12.)
Gay does some trauma release in his practice too, and his technique is to have the client lie down (on the floor, on a massage table, etc.), and he sits at their head with his hands palming the top-front part of their head in such a fashion that his fingers are draped across their forehead and his fingertips are touching their eyebrows.
Then he talks them through the trauma, having them focus on their feelings and thoughts, while at the same time making sure that they are breathing through these feelings and thoughts.
As I mentioned to you before, it is the speculation of one of my acupuncture teachers that the breath is of vital importance in releasing trauma. If the breath gets stuck, so does the trauma. I've found that even I can breathe through most of the traumas that I've been working on, and when the trauma is too intense and I get lost in it, the head-palming thing is of great help. I'm not kidding. I'm quite surprised by how it facilitates the release of things. It's quick, and it's gentle.
I certainly wish that I had known about this when we had our session together. I do think that it would have enabled me to release more of the womb/birth traumas. I seemed to have to struggle so hard just to stay in my body during the session, and facing the pain and fear was just too much at times, but I now find that the breathing keeps me in my body, and the head-palming posture somehow allows - again - a quick and gentle release.
In the book, Gay mentions that one of his friends had told him that "these points" are well-known trauma-release points in China. (He never states which of the many acupuncture points that are being stimulated by the head palming are the trauma-release points.)
Name withheld by request
1.1 Jan 5, 2000: Revised.
1.0 December 6, 1999. First draft.