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Holes/Neediness , healed by therapist?
From my understanding , s holes are the main reason for neediness ?
My question is, can s holes be seen or perceived remotely by an advanced therapist? If so can the healing be done or assisted by the process, without the individual being able to sense the holes?
My reason for asking is, that i lack confidence in my ability to sense/feel my body during healing. I mean i can if the issue is presenting strongly, but like i say i lack confidence in doing do.
I do think i have this neediness, i seem to need or want reassurance from others. Also, i heavily dislike neediness in others, leading me to think im projecting onto others , as its too painful to accept in myself. Ive tried lots of healing, and theres always a block, i wonder if its this neediness, like a need to seek an answer or attention from someone else. In an ideal world, id let a therapist do their stuff and sort it for me!
My question is, can s holes be seen or perceived remotely by an advanced therapist? If so can the healing be done or assisted by the process, without the individual being able to sense the holes?
My reason for asking is, that i lack confidence in my ability to sense/feel my body during healing. I mean i can if the issue is presenting strongly, but like i say i lack confidence in doing do.
I do think i have this neediness, i seem to need or want reassurance from others. Also, i heavily dislike neediness in others, leading me to think im projecting onto others , as its too painful to accept in myself. Ive tried lots of healing, and theres always a block, i wonder if its this neediness, like a need to seek an answer or attention from someone else. In an ideal world, id let a therapist do their stuff and sort it for me!
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Yes, you are correct, s-holes are the main reason for neediness and needing or wanting reassurance from others.
We want to empower the client to be able to heal themselves and ultimately make them able to do some simple trauma healing on their own
But a therapist can assist you with asking you the right questions and making you use the right healing techniques, allowing you to become aware of s-holes and to be able to heal them.
As a therapist, I would suggest you that we work first on this feeling of "I lack confidence in my ability to sense/feel my body during healing" so that you feel more empowered when doing healing, and it will make healing easier too.
I would also guide you to do the projection technique on other people "being needy".
Because if this is not healed, it will make it difficult for you to accept and feel this neediness/being needy in yourselves. You said it yourself "its too painful to accept in myself".
We project out what we don't want to feel/accept within ourselves.
Don't hesitate to reach out to one of us therapist if you want support and heal this issue that you are facing.
Take care
What is interesting here, if that the situation you describe is matching the action you are taking : you want somebody else (the therapist) to do something for you to reassure you, because you are not feeling confident. Therefore, the trauma you are wanting to heal is playing out. Which makes me think there is more than s-holes are play, but probably also a biographical trauma related to this pattern.
Once you see this is a pattern, you can break it.
Beside this, the lack on confidence on finding s-holes or not is purely based on this trauma or belief. Since, if there is an active problem in your life, then you can feel it. If you cannot feel it, it is because this problem is not there. Problem solved.