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Healing Indecision

Hi there,

I know that there is a state, the optimal life path state. But for a lot of people this is not accessible, and scecondly even if you have done the process , it requires a lot of work.

Are there non - peak state techniques to deciding between various options. For example to decide which the best outcome is?

In decision is a huge part of my experience, and i have struggled with it for most of my life.




  • I read on one of the peak State books, think about the option, and if there is an inner brightening of some sort, then it is the ideal pathway. Not sure how this might be affected by psychological factors, but that was the method.

  • edited April 2022

    Hey Apranihita!

    The Life Path Peak State Process is a great way to start with your optimal Life Path. 

    With the "requires a lot of work part" - it's all about making sure you heal the trauma. When you get the ability, it becomes much easier.

    On the other hand with the decision making - do you feel like you don't know what you want, or it's more like you're "in-between", so don't know which option is best?

    For me, The Column of Self process was a game-changer when it comes to decisions. Especially when you felt like this your whole life, looks like there could be an issue. 

    My personal experience: I was also struggling with the most basic stuff - like what do I like today? Coffee, water? It always took me time to decide what to wear, what to say, what to do. Not to mention being frustrated when it comes to thinking about ANY decision that I had to make. 

    You can ask a Therapists to check with you on symptoms :) 

    The Column of Self Process I've done:

    Therapists directory:

  • edited April 2022
    What you are talking about, is the Optimal Decision Making technique, that is taught in our full trauma therapist training or used byt therapists with a client in a session.

    But you only use it for some decisions there and there.
    If you have an issue with making simple decisions, or almost any decisions in your life, it's because there is probably a bigger issue underneath.

    Your sentence make me think it's a bigger issue: "In decision is a huge part of my experience, and i have struggled with it for most of my life."

    Long term issues about making decisions could be because of a damage to your Column of Self (as Krystian was describing), a mind brain split, generationals traumas, triune brains conflicts, or else.

    Mind brain split: it's like one part of your mind want that/decide something and the other one want/decide something else, so you can't never decide something.

    For something who has such a big impact on your life and for so many years, it's sometimes better to ask a therapist to help you diagnose what is it, and to tell you which solutions area available to heal it.

    Because we can go only go to a certain point when we are auto-diagnosing ourselves.
    We can fool ourselves, blank on some traumas, etc.
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